Cherish always...

It's been a month since winter break. A whole month since I saw my grandma standing there at the Hong Kong airport waving me goodbye. 30 + days has passed since I was living out my dreams on the other side of the world. It doesn't seem that long, but living the days one by one here in my dorm on BYU campus is making it seem like it has been forever. 


During this whole entire time that I have been back, I have thought about a couple of things that I really want. One is that I really really want is to be back on the other side of the world, living the Hong Kong life, and spending time with my grandma. The second one that is that I  keep thinking about is the topic of family and memories, and the things we ought to cherish more. Cherish. That is a beautiful word to me. I don't know why. But it has deeper meaning then just a word. 

To me, Cherish means love, and remembrance. It means understanding, and charity. It means holding on to something forever, and never ever forget what it means to me. Now, I know this isn't the real definition for the world cherish, but when I think of that word, this is what comes into my mind. 


I have so many good things that happens to me all the time. I have a family that loves me, and would do anything for me. I have friends that are always so caring, and understanding; friends that I know will always be there for me. I have a loving Father in Heaven that loves me so much he sent his son to die for me. I have sooooo much! But yet, sometimes I forget about that. I forget that I am a very lucky girl, and just always remember the negative things. I forget to CHERISH the people I have around me, and keep trying to ask for more. 

During this week though, I realize that I won't always have so much to be grateful for. I won't always have all my family members to be with me on this earth. Someday in the future, no matter when, my grandma will leave this earth, and my parents will pass onto some place amazing and wonderful. My friends lives will change, and some of them I will never see again after I graduate. So many things can happen in a blink of an eye, you never know how life is going to be like tomorrow. 


So I decided that I need to cherish everything I have NOW. I don't always want to live in negativity, and someday wake up from that, and realize that I lost everything I had because I was too busy feeling sorry for myself. I want to always remember the experiences I have with my family, and the memories we make together. I don't want to wake up one day and regret about something I can never change because I let the time pass me by. I want to do something about it today, make a change, and Cherish everything I have in front of me. 

I want to remember every single waking moment I have with my grandma on my trip back to Hong Kong. I want to remember the laughs we have, the jokes we made with each other, and the meals we ate together. I want that feeling of love, and connection to be embedded deep inside me that even when I am 80, I will still remember it. I want to share the rest of our lives in happiness, joy, and love. 


I want to always laugh with my parents and sister, that we can always understand each other, and love each other more. I don't ever want to lose them. I want to see their faces forever inside my mind; each waking day, and each sleeping night. I want them to know that I love them with all my life. I want them to know that no matter what I say and do, I CHERISH everything they have ever done for me. I want them to laugh at me, and dance with me. I want all of us in the family to cherish each other. 


Okay, so I know that a lot of this post has been about me, so as always, now I am going to ask all of you to do something for me. I am going to ask you to Cherish the other people around you too. Love your family, and care about your friends. Remember that you never know what is going to happen, so before you have to regret about something, do it. Make sure you never let anything pass in your life when you could of done something about it. Remember that your Father in Heaven loves you, and wants you to cherish life also. Don't wallow in self pity. Stand up, be positive the best that you can, and cherish the people and things you have around you. Because I promise you that if you take time to look for the good, they will always come out and beat the bad. Trust me. I am working on it right now, and it is making a difference. And I know it will make a difference to you too. Only if you let it though, and make yourself give it a try. If you are already doing this, that is great! But there are always room to improve. Never forget that. Whether you are doing it or not, start today, and keep it going for the rest of your life, the best that you can. 

Try your best to cherish all that you love and care for. Try your best to BE your best! Because as always, I am!! :) I love ya'll!! Have a great night, and wonderful week!!!


with all my love,
Q2

Things that matters....

I am following this precise advice. 

I learned a lesson this weekend. And it didn't come easily. So instead of letting you make my mistakes without knowing the consequences, I am going to tell you what I did, and hopefully you can learn from my experiences. Because trust me. You want to. 

Many things happens in life. Things that we never see coming, and things that were never meant to happen in the first place. You can't control everything. Sometimes, I find that it is almost impossible to even control ourselves. Especially our emotions. They are one of the biggest  problems. Happiness, sadness, everything else in between until you hit the worst ones. Anger and Jealousy. They are the worst emotions that humans have in my opinion, and since the lesson comes from being angry this week, I am going to focus more on that, and leave Jealousy for next time. 


Why do humans get angry? What's the reason for it? It doesn't do us any good when we get angry or upset. It just makes things worst. So why in the world do our emotions always get away from us whether we want them to or not? How much difference does it really make when we are angry, verses to when we are calm and clearheaded? This question can have two answers. It can make a lot of difference, but mostly always for the worst, and in the end, it really had no impact at all. 

Some of the things we get angry about really doesn't matter compare to all the other things in this world. For me, I know that sometimes when I do get upset or angry, there might not really be an reason for it at all!! It could of been only something very small, but because of my pride, I let my emotions get in the way. At the end of the day, that small little thing won't even matter compared to all the other things I have accomplished, and still yet to accomplish for the rest of my life. I/we, shouldn't really let tiny things, or misunderstandings get in our way of enjoying our day, and time here on this earth. Anything can be cleared up, and there are always solutions to problems. We don't always need to get angry at others. 

You know, I really like this one song that is in one of the Rascal Flatts album (btw, I really like this band). It is called "Things That Matters." It talks about this family of a father and daughter. I would explain the whole song to you, but because it's just so good, I want you to listen to it. I posted the song right here so you can listen to it with me. Take some time, and really pay attention to the words. And then think about yourself. Think about what I said tonight. Do the things that make us angry really matter in the long run? The answer I have for myself is no. 


Have you ever realize how much energy it actually takes to be upset at someone or something? It gets really tiring after a while. At the end of the whole experience, sometimes you just feel drained. I know I feel like that all the time. I spend all my time and energy being mad at this one small issue, and in the end, it wasn't really even important! 

And not only that! Have you realize how much trouble being angry gets you in? When you are angry, you start to defend yourself, and sooner or later, an argument starts. It happens all the time. At the end of that argument, you might of lost a friend, offended your boss, or even disappointed your parents. Was it worth it? Or will the consequences be worth it the next time you get upset? It might not always happen like that, but most of the time, there are always negative results to a temper tantrum. 

So, in the end, I just don't think getting angry is worth it, but somehow, it always happens!!! So how are we suppose to control it? What can we do to protect ourselves from the negative consequences? How do we stay in check at all times, and be able to stop something from happening before it happens? I don't really have a answer to that. But I do know this: 

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Getting angry does nothing. It won't change a thing, and it surely isn't even worth it. It doesn't matter, and brings negative results that you never want to have to deal with. So the next time when you feel like your emotions are getting away from you, remember what I said tonight, and hopefully you won't repeat the same mistakes that I made this weekend. 


Just try your best. Nobody is perfect in everything that they do, and especially in controlling their emotions, but we call all try and do our Best! That's all it takes to make a difference in our lives. Trying, and Doing. And personally, I will add another one. REMEMBERING. Remember that it doesn't even matter, and remember that it surely isn't even worth it! Try your best!!! Because as always, I am. :) 


With all my love,
Q2

Choices and their complications....

Choices. Aren't they so funny and complicated at the same time? Have you ever stop to think about it? How many times in a day do you make a decision or a choice that affects the rest of your day?? It can just be very simple things like picking your outfit, or what's for breakfast all the way to more complicated things like what classes you are taking this semester. 

They all seem pretty simple though, right? I mean you just think about what you want at that moment, and after you decided, you put it to action. But have you thought deeper about it? I know that I always ask you to take a moment and think about the things I say, but seriously, do it again for me. Everyday when you make the choices, what are you thinking? Nothing? Something else other then about the choice that you are making? Or is your thoughts about how the action you are deciding on will affect your day, or your life after you make it? 


You never really realize it right? But after you really think about it, you finally realize how big of a part choices are in your day. I personally never realize how much one choice can change everything. But this week, it seems like that fact just keep jumping out at me. And another thought followed it. 

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Choices are sometimes really hard, and complicated. And sometimes, you better make the right one, or else you will have a whole lot of mess to clean up afterwards. It's true. One choice can change everything. Not for most things, but for the most important and sacred things, one choice is all we have. It sounds scary to me. I don't know about you, but knowing, thinking, and finally realizing how important choices are, that just makes me nervous. 

 So what do we do when hard decisions are ahead of us? Do we stop and freeze because we are too scared? Do we just give up because its too hard, and we don't want to spend the effort? Do we stop thinking period and do the rush decision, or do we take the time to calm ourselves, and make the RIGHT decision? And even after that, do we know that it was the right decision? There are just so many things that comes along with making that one big decision.

So next time when you come across a choice or decision that you need to make, how are you going to go about it? What would you do to make sure you are making the right choice? I won't tell you how to make your choice, because that will never be fore me to say, but I will tell you this. Choices are hard, and complicated. But because of that, you have to be calm, and strong to make the RIGHT choice for yourself. Don't let anybody else, or anything else to affect your own choices. Remember, you have your own agency, and you have your own life. Take control of it, and use it well. Use it for the right reasons. Use your precious Agency to choose the RIGHT. Don't forget it. :) 


Anyways, that is all that I have to say right now. Hope you guys are doing your best in everything! Because as always, I am! :) Peace! :) 


love,
QQ