Relationships...

So, here I am, sitting on my bed, not being able to fall asleep. I haven't had this feeling in a while, but right now, I just really, really need to share my opinions about the world. Well, more specifically about the social norms in our Brigham Young University world. 

Okay, not to dis on BYU, because i love it tremendously, but I mean seriously?? Who ever said that 20 was too old to be single?? I mean what the heck is that? I hear girls all the time, and they are like "Oh...look at me, I am 20, and I am so old and pathetic because I am single....hahaha..." I am totally not joking...those are the exact words that comes out, and I hear that sentence like every single day of my life, and sometimes, sadly, those exact words come out of my mouth! (I don't know what has gotten into me lately....=P)

 I mean, come on people...how in the world did being single and living life like a regular college student became a bad thing? Why is it that the social norms around here is that you have to be dating somebody, or be engaged, or even have dates to be cool? I hear conversations all the time around campus that sounds something like, "Man, all of my roommates are on dates, and I am just so boring and not cool because I sit home all day and do homework...!" 

Okay, reality check guys, having dates are not the things that makes you successful in life, homework and education is! If you don't get that concept, then I am sorry, because you are paying over 2000$ for tuition to get an education, and not a husband or wife!!! I might be sounding harsh, but that is the total truth....value your money, and your time in college to learn, so you can secure a better future, and a husband/wife to go with that beautiful future! That should be your goal, not how many dates you can get in the same week!

Also, another thing that is bugging me way too much about relationships is all the mind games that goes with them! When did falling in love become such a complicated thing? Why are guys and gals always second guessing themselves with how they look, or what the other thinks of them, or if their response is witty enough? Or the unbelievably long and complicated process of getting the first date because of all the different questions, and silly things we have to think about and analyze first before it becomes 'acceptable' to date someone?

I mean, doesn't that get tiring?! If they really like you, they wouldn't really care if you put too much emoticons in your text, or how silly you might of sound then! Being in a relationships isn't about who is better with words, or who sounds smoother with a pick up line! It is about liking that person, and wanting to learn more, and spend more time with that person. It's about truly, and completely falling in love with their personality, and not their usage of English words, or how good they are with mind games, and their ability to guess your thoughts!

I so miss all of those childhood times where you just watch Disney, and you watch the princess and prince Chraming fall in love so easily, and effortlessly. Before the times where you have to worry about the differences between a winky smiley face, and a regular smiley face..and talking with your roommates.like...

"OMG!!!! He gave me a winky face!!! That is so good....right? Oh wait...what if that was like a typo...or if it means completely something different? ahhhh!! now I am so confused!!" 

(because that is wayyyyy more important then the conversation itself...)

I don't know how, or when, but suddenly, relationships just became too complicated, and nit picky for me. I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to think for hours of what to say to a guy, or the problem of if I should text him first or wait for him..., or even the fact that he doesn't use enough emoticons in our text and conversations. That to me, is completely irrelevant, because liking a guy, and being in a relationship should matter on real emotions, and real personality. The feeling of falling in love should be something that can't ever be describe over a text, or a phone conversation. It should be a feeling that you will never forget, one that completely knocks you over your feet. 

 

Love should be about knowing, and loving every single part about your significant other. It's about laughing at all the silly things that you both say without really thinking about it because you don't really care about what the other person thought about the text, all you care is about the person themselves, and the fun times you have with them. It should be about making memories that will never be forgotten, and will be cherished forever. 

Relationships should be about going on silly and fun dates that enhance the experience with each other, not the quality of the meal that was provided, or if things were perfect enough or not, because if you truly care about that other and enjoy being around them, the date will be perfect regardless or anything else. It is about building trust towards each other without all of the mind games, and one day taking that leap to become husbands and wife for eternity through the blessings of the Temple. =)Although what I am saying today is most likely not true for other parts of the world, or in different college campuses, but it completely applies to BYU, and I am here, officially say that I disprove of it! 

Being 20 really shouldn't be about going on all the dates you can, and worrying about who you are going to marry. It shouldn't be a time where you get upset at yourself because you are single, and think you are pathetic, because you are not! To all the girls and guys out there that might read this and think that they are, stop it! Being single at 20 is completely normal, because in the real world, having a husband/wife is a great thing, but having a good education and career is a even better thing. Don't worry about having not enough dates, or not enough texts from boys! Spend that energy doing your best in school, and I promise that one day, that one Flynn Rider or Rapunzel will appear in your life, not because of your ability in sending a good text, or ability to play good mind games, but by the glow of your knowledge, personality, and genuine character! 

Okay...now that I have said all of that, I feel a whole lot better. I hope to anyone that is reading this, that I didn't offend you. If I did, I apologize, but I won't change my opinions or thoughts about this topic. I feel so strongly about it, I really hope someone will read this, and realize a true meaning of relationships besides the hour long conversations over text, and the forever long mind games that they play. Coming to BYU should be about our education, and living a college students life, learning lessons, and making memories of our own that will shape us and define us. Being single and 20 is a wonderful thing, and it is the prime time to make yourself a better person, with skills and education to later find that one perfect man who will knock you off your feet, and be with you for the rest of your life.

So go!!!

Live your life!

Have fun, and stop feeling pathetic because you don't have a date tonight! Just dance, run around, and be happy! That, my friend, is what life, college, and relationships should be about! It should be you making your own memories, learning your own lessons, and finding that one person that don't care about all the dramas of the social norms, but one who truly cares about you, and loves you for exactly who you are.

Try your best to be your best! Because, as always, I am! Have a good week, and remember, being single isn't pathetic!!!

Love,
Q2!

Just stop worrying about the world...

I have came up with a conclusion lately about life...and that conclusion is to just not worry about life. 

I mean, there are always going to be stresses, and unfortunate events in our lives, like a dead computer, or a wreck car, or ever cancer. Those things sucks, and life might seem horrible around those hard and trying times, but in the end, everything will be okay. 

I know that is such a cliche saying, and whenever you hear that you just want to groan, and scream "why" on the top of your lungs and just throw a temper tantrum....but other then that being completely immature, and not helpful, it would just be a waste of time and energy...you know why? Because the Lord above knows all, and he controls all, and he is in every single part of our lives.

The Lord above has given us everything...right down to our little toe nails and finger nails, and in turn, he can guide where our lives are suppose to go. In my New Testament class today, we were talking about how the Lord can control our situations, and with everything, he will bring us out of that bad situation, and into something better, but only at his timing. Our own jobs is to live faithfully, and to always trust that no matter how hard life gets, there is always a way out. We have to enjoy life, and we have to live it to the best of our abilities...that is one of the main reason why we are on Earth today, to prove ourselves to be a true sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father. 

So in the mean time, before we get to the end of our journey in this life, we should just not worry, and have fun in our lives. Spend some time going crazy with your roommate because of a boy crush, or go out and run in the rain and snow, because it is completely crazy and unreasonable. Go to school and work, and just have fun with your friends and co-workers, laughing at life, and making fun of silly things, because really, what else is there better to do? haha... 

So, I mean, this is a very simple and silly post, but the point is very simple also. DONT WORRY ABOUT LIFE! Everything will work out, if you just let the Lord guide you and protect you. He is in everything, and he knows everything. Just remember that, and I promise this world will become a lot simpler, and happier, and easier to you! 

Anyways, that is all I have to say today. =) Hope you guys have a great week! Try your best to be your best, because as always, I am! =) 

Love,
Q2

The Knowledge with one word....

Week 2 - 

Hey my friends, so...ready for another preaching session from me? Haha....I bet you are! Here goes...

You know those moments when you feel a prompting, but aren't exactly sure if it was the Spirit or not? Sometimes you doubt what your heart is telling you because you just don't know for sure if it is what you are suppose to do, or what you want to do, right?? I might be the only weird one, but I sure get that feeling a lot. A lot of the time, even when I do feel the spirit, I don't actually acknowledge it the first moment...I have to wait over and over again for the spirit to manifest itself, and by then, it's too late. 

But I mean, what can we do to know for certain that what we are feeling is the spirit, and the prompting of the Lord?? How can we react on the first moment, instead of doubting over and over again until its too late? I didn't know how for sure until my lesson in my NT class in Acts, ch.9, vs.10. 

In that chapter, Saul (of Paul) has just seen the light of the Lord, and heard the voice of the Redeeming Christ, asking him why he was persecuting all of Christ's children, the believers in Christianity. After that encounter, and of Paul's repentance, they were sent unto the city of Damascus. 

Now, here is the main part of the lesson today. When Paul was heading towards his journey in the beginning  he was carrying letters to Damascus to arrest all the people of Christian faith, and send them to prison, or even to their deaths. Within that city was a man and a priest named Ananias. He was a very faithful, and wonderful man of the faith, and very in tune with the spirit. In Vs. 10 of Ch. 9, the Lord came to him, and all he had to say was one word: Ananias. Without a second of a doubt, Ananias stood, and said, "I am Here Lord." 

Without a second of a doubt, Ananias knew that it was the Lord calling him, and asking for his help. Ananias didn't have to think twice, he just stood up and answer the Lord, always ready to listen to Him, and do as He asks. Isn't that just amazing? This one mortal man, who has devoted his life to the Church, was so in tune to the Lord that just by one call of his name, and one spark of the spirit, he knew it was the Lord, and he was ready to answer and be at his service. 

So looking back at our lives, isn't the answer that we proposed before just answered? The spirit is always here with us if we are faithful, but that isn't the key. The key is if we are ready to listen to the spirit or not. The key is to be in tune, always and forever to what the spirit, or the Lord has to tell us. We should always strive to be like Ananias, where no matter what is happening, or how hard life is, we are ready to answer to the Lord in the manner of just one word, and be ready to answer, "yes Lord, I am here." 

There are always hard choices in life. There are always times where we are searching for the answers, but never seem to find them. I know because I have been through so much of those times, and I wish I was more in tune to the spirit like Ananias, and listened to the spirit that was always there to guide me and strengthen me. I know that if each and every one of us strive to be better, and more in tune with the spirit, we won't have those times where we rock back and forth from decisions, or be doubtful of what the spirit is actually trying to tell us. If we strive to be better, we will be able to stand up and and "yes Lord, I am here," on the very first prompting from the Gift that should be so dear to us. I know this to be true, and I am striving every day to be able to be like Ananias, and answer without a shadow of doubt to the Lord, from the very first moment he asks of me. 

Try your best, to be your best, as always! 

love,
Q2

The Lord's own timing....

So, it's been a while since I have posted anything huh?? 

Well, first let me apologize for being lazy, and incompetent in my blogging skills lately, and I promise that I will start doing better from now on. =)

Second, I decided that each week to keep up with my blogging, I will put out an inspirational post for everyone who still reads my blog. haha... I am currently in a New Testament class for school, and the teacher is just so amazing in his words, and teachings. Every single class inspires me to be better, and do better, and always teaches me a lesson that I know will make me a better person for the rest of my life. 

So, instead of keeping those valuable lessons within myself, I decided to share it with the rest of the world.

Sometimes in life, we wonder why things are so hard. We wonder why we have spent so many nights on our knees asking for answers, and blessings, but they still haven't come.  Sometimes things get so dark that we begin to get jealous of others that seems to be having more blessings then we are. It is during those times when we have to remember that the Lord Jesus Christ and our loving Heavenly Father knows all that is going to happen.

In Acts Chapter 3 of the New Testament, there is a parable about a layman. Day after days, years after years he sat by the gates of the temple mount. It was within those exact years  that Jesus was preforming his mortal ministry. Now...think about it. How many times must have the Layman watch Jesus preform miracles of healing for the blind and the disease? How many time must he have thought to himself, "what is wrong with me? Why can't I be healed?" Also, another point, think about what must have been within Jesus' mind when he sees that layman sitting there by the temple gate, thinking about that poor layman that will one day serve a bigger purpose then he knows. This one cripple man, older then the age of 40, will one day become the instrument for the Lord to bring  1500 men unto the gospel.

Now, here is the coolest part of the parable. After Jesus' resurrection and ascension up into Heaven, Peter and John continued their way to preach the gospel to the Jews. Their daily route includes a trip to the temple grounds right at the praying hour. As they were climbing the grand staircase up to the temple grounds that day, the Layman put out his hands, and all he asked for was some alms. 

Now Peter, poor and rich-less, said unto the Layman "Gold and Silver I have none, but I say until you, rise, stand, and walk." Now, again, I ask you to think...this man who haven't use his legs all 40+ years of his life, they must be disgusting and deformed. But as Peter reaches his hand down to pull the layman up, his feet was filled with strength, and up he went skipping into the temple grounds, singing with joy, and praising the Lord. This man that hasn't walked his whole life, who has been wondering through all his years why he wasn't healed by the Lord himself, was finally walking, and for the first time entering the holy grounds of the temple. This miracle for him that happened out of the blew, beyond his imagination of timing, completely changed him, and everyone that saw him walk on that very day. Because of his faith, he himself brought another 1500 Jews into the gospel. 

I guess the moral of the story is that yes, we have trials, and yes, we have questions. Sometimes...well most of the times we ask those questions, and expect to get an anser but never do. Sometimes that answer isn't what we want, or expected. And the truth is....it doesn't matter! The Lord knows it all, and he preforms his miracles and gives his answers according to his own time. He knows what is in store for all of us, and he knows what we are capable of even if we don't. So next time when you want to ask the question why....stop for a moment, remember of his all knowing power, and ask instead 'what.' 

Ask him what you can do for Him, and what you can do for other children of God. Ask him What you must do to become better, to be that child of God he knows you are. Instead of wanting to know of the instruments of God, become the instrument of Him. =) Trust in his timing, and trust in his love, because no matter what, he will help us, guide us, and answer all our questions. I know this for the truth, and I love it with all my heart. 

Once again, Try your best to be your best! =) I love you guys~ 

love,
Q2