Relationships...

So, here I am, sitting on my bed, not being able to fall asleep. I haven't had this feeling in a while, but right now, I just really, really need to share my opinions about the world. Well, more specifically about the social norms in our Brigham Young University world. 

Okay, not to dis on BYU, because i love it tremendously, but I mean seriously?? Who ever said that 20 was too old to be single?? I mean what the heck is that? I hear girls all the time, and they are like "Oh...look at me, I am 20, and I am so old and pathetic because I am single....hahaha..." I am totally not joking...those are the exact words that comes out, and I hear that sentence like every single day of my life, and sometimes, sadly, those exact words come out of my mouth! (I don't know what has gotten into me lately....=P)

 I mean, come on people...how in the world did being single and living life like a regular college student became a bad thing? Why is it that the social norms around here is that you have to be dating somebody, or be engaged, or even have dates to be cool? I hear conversations all the time around campus that sounds something like, "Man, all of my roommates are on dates, and I am just so boring and not cool because I sit home all day and do homework...!" 

Okay, reality check guys, having dates are not the things that makes you successful in life, homework and education is! If you don't get that concept, then I am sorry, because you are paying over 2000$ for tuition to get an education, and not a husband or wife!!! I might be sounding harsh, but that is the total truth....value your money, and your time in college to learn, so you can secure a better future, and a husband/wife to go with that beautiful future! That should be your goal, not how many dates you can get in the same week!

Also, another thing that is bugging me way too much about relationships is all the mind games that goes with them! When did falling in love become such a complicated thing? Why are guys and gals always second guessing themselves with how they look, or what the other thinks of them, or if their response is witty enough? Or the unbelievably long and complicated process of getting the first date because of all the different questions, and silly things we have to think about and analyze first before it becomes 'acceptable' to date someone?

I mean, doesn't that get tiring?! If they really like you, they wouldn't really care if you put too much emoticons in your text, or how silly you might of sound then! Being in a relationships isn't about who is better with words, or who sounds smoother with a pick up line! It is about liking that person, and wanting to learn more, and spend more time with that person. It's about truly, and completely falling in love with their personality, and not their usage of English words, or how good they are with mind games, and their ability to guess your thoughts!

I so miss all of those childhood times where you just watch Disney, and you watch the princess and prince Chraming fall in love so easily, and effortlessly. Before the times where you have to worry about the differences between a winky smiley face, and a regular smiley face..and talking with your roommates.like...

"OMG!!!! He gave me a winky face!!! That is so good....right? Oh wait...what if that was like a typo...or if it means completely something different? ahhhh!! now I am so confused!!" 

(because that is wayyyyy more important then the conversation itself...)

I don't know how, or when, but suddenly, relationships just became too complicated, and nit picky for me. I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to think for hours of what to say to a guy, or the problem of if I should text him first or wait for him..., or even the fact that he doesn't use enough emoticons in our text and conversations. That to me, is completely irrelevant, because liking a guy, and being in a relationship should matter on real emotions, and real personality. The feeling of falling in love should be something that can't ever be describe over a text, or a phone conversation. It should be a feeling that you will never forget, one that completely knocks you over your feet. 

 

Love should be about knowing, and loving every single part about your significant other. It's about laughing at all the silly things that you both say without really thinking about it because you don't really care about what the other person thought about the text, all you care is about the person themselves, and the fun times you have with them. It should be about making memories that will never be forgotten, and will be cherished forever. 

Relationships should be about going on silly and fun dates that enhance the experience with each other, not the quality of the meal that was provided, or if things were perfect enough or not, because if you truly care about that other and enjoy being around them, the date will be perfect regardless or anything else. It is about building trust towards each other without all of the mind games, and one day taking that leap to become husbands and wife for eternity through the blessings of the Temple. =)Although what I am saying today is most likely not true for other parts of the world, or in different college campuses, but it completely applies to BYU, and I am here, officially say that I disprove of it! 

Being 20 really shouldn't be about going on all the dates you can, and worrying about who you are going to marry. It shouldn't be a time where you get upset at yourself because you are single, and think you are pathetic, because you are not! To all the girls and guys out there that might read this and think that they are, stop it! Being single at 20 is completely normal, because in the real world, having a husband/wife is a great thing, but having a good education and career is a even better thing. Don't worry about having not enough dates, or not enough texts from boys! Spend that energy doing your best in school, and I promise that one day, that one Flynn Rider or Rapunzel will appear in your life, not because of your ability in sending a good text, or ability to play good mind games, but by the glow of your knowledge, personality, and genuine character! 

Okay...now that I have said all of that, I feel a whole lot better. I hope to anyone that is reading this, that I didn't offend you. If I did, I apologize, but I won't change my opinions or thoughts about this topic. I feel so strongly about it, I really hope someone will read this, and realize a true meaning of relationships besides the hour long conversations over text, and the forever long mind games that they play. Coming to BYU should be about our education, and living a college students life, learning lessons, and making memories of our own that will shape us and define us. Being single and 20 is a wonderful thing, and it is the prime time to make yourself a better person, with skills and education to later find that one perfect man who will knock you off your feet, and be with you for the rest of your life.

So go!!!

Live your life!

Have fun, and stop feeling pathetic because you don't have a date tonight! Just dance, run around, and be happy! That, my friend, is what life, college, and relationships should be about! It should be you making your own memories, learning your own lessons, and finding that one person that don't care about all the dramas of the social norms, but one who truly cares about you, and loves you for exactly who you are.

Try your best to be your best! Because, as always, I am! Have a good week, and remember, being single isn't pathetic!!!

Love,
Q2!